Pages about “Self-Compassion”
- After a rejectionRejection stings, but it rarely tells you what you're worth. Talk to yourself like a fair friend, keep the lesson small and specific, and try again.
- Evidence: Some
- Takes: an evening
- ProcrastinationPutting things off is mostly about avoiding a bad feeling, not about laziness. Shrink the first step, plan when you'll start, and go easy on yourself afterwards.
- Evidence: Some
- Takes: 10 minutes
- Receiving criticismCalm down before you reply, ask questions until you know exactly what they mean, and sort the useful part from the sting later, on paper.
- Evidence: Some
- Takes: 10 minutes, then a day
- Recovering from a mistake at workTell the right person quickly, bring a fix, apologize once without grovelling, and treat yourself the way you'd treat a colleague who'd done the same.
- Evidence: Some
- Takes: an hour, then a few days
- Self-compassion instead of self-criticismTalk to yourself after a mistake the way you'd talk to a friend. It doesn't make you lazy; in experiments it made people try harder to improve.