Pages about “Relationships”
- Disagreeing with a partner without fightingStart softly, take a real break when your heart is racing, and look at the argument as a fair outsider would. Couples research supports each step, but the effects are modest.
- Evidence: Some
- Takes: 20 minutes to an hour
- Gratitude and savoringNoticing and stretching out good moments gives a small lift. Gratitude exercises help less than their reputation suggests, so use them lightly.
- Habits that pay off long termNot smoking, moving most days, drinking moderately and keeping close relationships are the habits most linked to a long, good life. Build them one at a time.
- Maintaining friendshipsFriendships fade without small, regular effort. Reach out more than feels natural, be positive and supportive, and keep spending time together.
- Perspective-takingImagining how someone else sees things doesn't make you better at reading them. Asking does. Stepping back from your own problems does help you think more wisely.
- Time with peopleTime with other people is one of the most reliable links to feeling good. Regular, ordinary contact counts, including short chats with acquaintances.
- What reliably improves wellbeing (and what doesn't)People, movement, sleep and time outdoors have the best evidence. Many famous psychology tricks have small effects or didn't replicate.
- After a breakupIt usually hurts less, and for less long, than you fear. Cut down on checking your ex online, see people, and spend time rebuilding a sense of who you are on your own.
- Evidence: Weak
- Takes: a few weeks